You are never at the event horizon

Event horizon.. something that has always attracted me. I would not get into the technicals of an event horizon but for all practical purposes,  take it as the point of no return.

Many have not taken that great stride in their life just because their fears that it might lead into a point of no return. Many careers missed,  passions left, relationships compromised,  atrocities put up with - because it was thought as the point of no return.

I believe there are no event horizons in life. Every moment I have a choice to Return . To return to the world where I would be lot happier.  Whether my circumstances decide my destiny or my destiny decides my circumstances, I am never at a point of no return.  My free will shall always choose a path so.

I am the Moment

What is it that we want to know about ourselves ?  Is it How permanent we are ? Is it  what will happen to us after some point in time ? Is it the unquenched thirst to  know our true REALITY ?

Let me tell you - Our TRUE reality is that WE ARE "NOW". We are the Time & space that exists at all points in  a grand weave. This moment is US. Do we need so many learnings ? Were we not happy not even chanting a hymn  but simply BE in the moment a few decades ago - playing roman rings with ropes tied to the  mango tree?  When did this all stop ? When the first FEAR struck us . The first FEAR that immobilised us. Had we not even recognised the fear , we would have won from day 1.  We succumbed to the first fear . The FEAR was that we might lose something - a person / a comfortable circumstance / thing , etc etc. And then FEAR took over . Our BEING in the moment stopped.  I have a simple explanation for Dark & Light . When FEAR rules us, Darkness takes control. When we Rule the fear, the Light takes charge. Life is as simple as that.  Fear of the unknown is what makes us go to miracle doers and seers .  I do not think we go  in our quest for true knowledge . Because , when you are truly in quest for true knowledge, it COMES to you. You do NOT have to GO to anybody. Actually " seeking" is  the disguise for our actual " seeking solution to the unknown fear".

Here are the takeaways..

Start looking at every moment as a moment of "fearlessness". Until the moment you fell   off the staircase, did  you ever have a fear that you might fall ? No - it was an accident. It was a future that you never ‘thought of’. You were in a state of 'fearlessness' of a fracture happening until the moment it happened. Now , reverse it - We are in a state of Fear of future - what might happen . It could quite NOT happen at all - the event that  you think that might happen in future . You never know about it . Be fearless about not just your thoughts, but also about anyone who thinks negatively. That might not happen also . Dont give importance to the thought. The only solution to this is to STOP all the quest and start BEing in the Moment . This MOMENT is us.. This MOMENT is the truth that you always wanted to know . Nothing Else. Be in the Moment - you will manifest all from the abundance around you.

Here is  the  next learning - GOING WITH THE FLOW - without resisting . When we master this , then there is going to be Nothing for us to resist because the current will favour us .Will it give us the Money that we want to manifest  or the   million dollar job ?  YES .. and this is the ONLY   secret to manifest . The goal - the Number - is already there in your mind. You have already written in the cosmos. When you are in the MOMENT - without resisting - your entire energy is conserved for creating your favourite reality . Because your mind has nothing BUT the million dollar job that you want.No doubts.. No fears..  And it happens .

Dont do anything because if you didnt do it , you will feel guilty . Dont do it because you want something else in return . Do because You LOVE to do it.  Don’t do that job you hate to  because your family depended on it. Do it because you LOVE to see your family happy. You will stop hating your job.

The Greatest TRUTHs are the SIMPLEST  -  Love & The Moment. Nothing more & beyond..

Journey of thousand miles

A journey of  a thousand miles begins with that one Step.
The one step that I take right now. It starts Here.. in your mind. Starts as a tiny spark.
It starts Now.. Right now .. this Moment that would redefine your life. This moment that would write a new beginning , to create a new ending.
Right now, as you are reading this ,  with your current reality threatening to bring an ordinary end to your life ,  your unquenched thirst to succeed pushing you to take one last step .. your journey starts.
In search of a new you , a You whom you lost long back, a You whom you dreamt of yesterday .. A you who is Truly you.
Start Right Now.. It isn't far away..

Rudramaya

Tamil Poet Bharathiar's New Age Woman

Bharathi Kanda Pudumaip Penn ( The New age Woman as visualised by Bharathiar)

This is Bharathi kanda Pudumaip Penn:

"Nimirntha nannenjum naer konda paarvaiyum
Nilathinil yaarukkum anjaatha nerigalum
Thimirntha gnanach cherukkum iruppadhaal
Semmai maadhargal thirambuvathillaiyaam"

"With upright heart and steadfast look and ideals that are not afraid of anyone in the world- the woman does not falter as she has the possession of wisdom."

I feel, my dear Bharathi... You also should have defined the Man who would be the perfect match to these women.. In my words, the ideal man would be

"Annimirndha nannenjai anbaal aravanaithu
Nerkinda paarvayil than uruvathai nilaippaduthi
Aval thimirndha gnaanach cherukkil thilaithu maginzhndhu
Ach chemmai magalai manaiviyaagak kondaadi
Yendrendrum inbamaai.. Vaazhkkaye Inidhaai....

The man - who, embraces her upright heart with his love; In her steadfast look have himself seen; In her wisdom he drowns happily; Celebrating  this great woman as his wife.. Happily living everafter forever...

Idhu.. Naan kanda pudumai Aanmagan .. ( This is the New age  Man that I dream of)

On Freewill

Surprisingly , this is a note that I have written about a year ago - cant remember what made me write this but definitely yes - it must have been a lesson i learnt by wrong application of my free will & ending up in a mess... Yet, it makes sense to me every moment of accomplishment & failure. Now for my thoughts....

Everything that happens to us out of our actions can be explained in the following context. Apply to all the situations you have been into - due to your actions ( It excludes situations that you get into without your intention like a fall,  accident etc etc) Its all about our  respective "spheres" and the extent of exercising our "free will" within that sphere  Problem starts when you are not conscious & aware of your respective spheres.. You identify the wrong sphere & exercise inapproppriate free will..  And we fail miserably..

So, how do you get into the right space?
  
 1. Do what makes YOU Dharmically  happy first  , your family happiness follows automatically. But remember - for an angry man, "anger" makes him happy , for a politician,  cheating makes him happy  & thats his Free Will within his mis-interpreted sphere  . Thats why I said "Dharmically"

2.  Never never get into "jealousy" and "envy" mode  . The minute you feel these, it means you have recognized your 'inferiority' . And, live to EXCEL and not to COMPETE. Jealousy & envy vanish automatically . The other man  is happy or  successful because He CHOSE to be SO & you didnt.

3.  Anger- Ideally avoid it but practically, you can get angry but before it recognises you, get OUT of it. Which means , you have a 'microsecond'  romancing with anger and thats all.

4. True enlightenment is when you go  back to reclaim what you renounced earlier ...  BUT you REACT  to the same events that made you renounce , "DIFFERENTLY" . In fact, ultimate reaction is "Non-Reaction".   Zendo helps..

Have i missed something... Yes - Never try to Understand & Interpret God - Just trust .. or choose to be an Atheist . Its eithr 0% or 100%. 

Working on Strengths

The next step to understanding the limitations - "WORKING ON STRENGTHS. I believe that the most successful businesses are the ones where every resource is utilised to its best potential- note that i've used 'its' instead of 'the' and I hope you got the difference. Same with the most successful families. And thats probably why joint families worked wonders because there was a collective availability and deployment of resources.. A wonderful division of labour was possible.
Everyone has strengths & weaknesses. And its all about balancing these. Can we call it the ' fish ,cat & the bird principle of co-existence ' . In a family, first step is to understand the strength of each including the kids.. We know that fish swims , birds fly & cats run. In their own environment , viz, water, air & land - they achieve the best. Interchange their jobs - they will fail miserably.. And , interchange their environment ..fish on land, cats in air & birds in water... they die. Same way, in a relationship, if we understand that my wife / husband ( well, you can add all the members of the family here) excels in "this action" in this environment ' and use their strength for the common cause of overall family welfare, we would only keep moving ahead - financially as well as socially.. Ideally, the family will be a bunch of "experts" with a single goal. We would not be forcing our child to do engineering when he wants to become an archeologist, we will not make our wife a four wall show-piece when she aspires to be a fashion designer, we will not force our husband to become like the next door CEO when he wants to become a Life Coach.. And the worst is to realise 20 years later that we have wasted or lost an asset out of our own ego , arrogance or neglect . Your kid or wife or husband whom you didnt understand would have pardoned you.. But your conscience would never.. Because, it never sleeps.Rudramaya.

Working on limitations

If a relationship cannot give that secure feeling that my next step would not be on a landmine.. its a fake relationship. There is no honesty in it.. no truth.. Its like we are cheating ourselves in the name of that "relationship" . The most successful relationships are those where each one works around the limitations of the other. Not the ASSUMED limitations.. I'm talking about the REAL limitations. This might look a little negative .. but this is a more realistic approach. We strengthen ourselves by what each other know. But what creates the first crack is an expectation surpassing the limitation of the other. Expectations get built around one's ability.. in any relationship. Limitation is the max efficiency one can perform that 'action' that he is able to do. When I say I cook well, you cannot assume me to be your personal "Nigella" . I cannot be your personal ' aishwarya rai' or ' sharukh' or even your personal 'man / woman next door' , who always appears better than me. In a husband-wife relationship, there is an acceptance of the limitations of each other , appreciation & strengthening of the specialities of each other , work within this premise - all happening in a warp of love. Do you feel this is idealistic? It just implies that you are not really HAPPY. Just introspect....

Man Vs Woman or Man & Woman

Man Vs Women or Man & Women

How does this sound to you ?

1. ' Man Vs Woman' 2. 'Man & Woman' . The simplest solution to all you have discussed is here- whether your lead your life as "man vs woman" or "man & woman" . Man vs woman- its always a competition as to who is bigger - in terms of anything - money, love, ego, respect .This is a parasitic life - an unhealthy competition - the root cause of all problems . But Man & Woman always means a peaceful co-existence. Each one trying to lift the other higher in all aspects.. Its a symbiotic relationship. There are three realities here:

1. Both at "man & woman" level of relationship - Life is beautiiful & they live happily ever after
2. One lives M&W and the other M vs W - Go on upto your tolerance levels - If one is unable to change the other, then QUIT.
3. Both M vs W - The best is to understand this initially and just Quit the relationship - its just not going to work out. And even if you dont quit initially - any time is the best time to QUIT in such relationships.
Life poses difficult situations - but its actually simple. Because, your objective in life is not to crib about difficulties but do the best in a given situation to make your "self" happy.
Even spiritually looking at things - Man & Women are equal "power stations" - the best that can happen is a synergy when they live as "Man & woman". But, with "Man Vs Woman" - I dont have to tell you - Its called "annihilation".

Landmine Life

Landmine Life

If a relationship cannot give that secure feeling that my next step would not be on a landmine.. its a fake relationship. There is no honesty in it.. no truth.. Its like we are cheating ourselves in the name of that "relationship" . The most successful relationships are those where each one works around the limitations of the other. Not the ASSUMED limitations.. I'm talking about the REAL limitations. This might look a little negative .. but this is a more realistic approach. We strengthen ourselves by what each other know. But what creates the first crack is an expectation surpassing the limitation of the other. Expectations get built around one's ability.. in any relationship. Limitation is the max efficiency one can perform that 'action' that he is able to do. When I say I cook well, you cannot assume me to be your personal "Nigella" . I cannot be your personal ' aishwarya rai' or ' sharukh' or even your personal 'man / woman next door' , who always appears better than me. In a husband-wife relationship, there is an acceptance of the limitations of each other , appreciation & strengthening of the specialities of each other , work within this premise - all happening in a warp of love. Do you feel this is idealistic? It just implies that you are not really HAPPY. Just introspect....